It’s great that you know and understand what you are feeling and thinking in regards to sex right now! A lot of times people don’t really know what it is that they want which can lead to a lot of confusion on their part.
Communication, as I’m sure you know, is one of the foundations of a healthy relationship. Talking to your partner about sex, whether you do want a sexual relationship or not, can be a difficult and intimidating thing to talk about. Especially because we all have those worries of “What if they get mad or upset”. There are a few steps that you can take. Be sure to do it in a private space where there are little to no distractions, you are both in a good mood and not upset about other things in life (tests, homework, tv), and try to use “I” statements. We never want to sound accusatory when we talk to our partners because it causes people to go on the defense. Then explain why it is that you do not want anything sexual at the moment with your “I” statements, keeping eye contact, and having confident body language.
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-The Health Nuts